Mothering Without Smothering

Mothering without being smothered means we limit what we are willing to do for our children. It is not in a child's best interests to have a mature, capable adult at his beck and call twenty-four hours a day, waiting to feed him his favorite foods, then clean up his messes, entertain him when he's bored and pacify him when he's cranky. We're mothers, not handmaidens to royalty.
~Annie Chapman
note to self: In the new year, start having better boundaries with my children and continue to demonstrate Christ' love and grace to them in real and tangible ways. I want to teach and guide, not smother.
Little Miss, before bedtime, shared a little with us into the how's and why's of her people-loving personality:
Mommy: Kya, why don't you like playing with your doll house by yourself?
Kya: Because playing by yourself is "alone time".
And I don't like "alone time".


  1. It's a hard thing to do but yes we need to have boundaries so they can learn :-)

  2. Hey Happy Be-lated New Year! Hope you have a healthy and good 2009!

    "Nana's Box"

  3. My husband said to say that are kids are the same way. They only like playing with mama and daddy. We've been trying to work on that but it seems like I have to actualy give them ideas of what to do. When I was a kid, I don't ever remember playing with my parents.

  4. Anonymous7:00 PM

    Just today I was thinking I need to be better about this. I suppose this is tougher for stay-at-home-moms? I don't know. I don't want to hover....but I also want my children to grow up feeling they had adequate quality time with me!

    Such a delicate balance!!